You say you love a person but do your actions show it?
One of the great illusions of our time is that love is self-sustaining. It is not. Love must be fed and nurtured, constantly renewed. That demands ingenuity and consideration, but first and foremost, it demands making the time for each other. ~David Mace
Unfairytale-ish, non-metaphorical and practical, yes, but very true. Love does not simply commit suicide, we will have to kill it. Though, it often simply dies of our neglect.
As we go through and get by the hustles and bustles of life and work, it becomes very easy for feelings to fall apart, One believes and often will never really say that the relationship/bond does NOT matter or that it is not important, yet one ironically often act as though it is not.
Many do not continue or fail to demonstrate their love by being affectionate to the person not to put on a show, but to feed your love for each other.
Can you keep love? I honestly think love cannot be kept. It stays by choice.
According to someone, it is something that needs to be nurtured in order for it to grow, it also needs to grow in order to sustain life. Without nurturing, it dies, and without allowing it to grow, it is then,stifled and stunted.
Love must be cherished and maintained if you want it to last. Love can die a slow painful death if over time one starts taking each other for granted. And yes, it won’t happen then and there and it’ll be a long and winding road to the end but believe me, it’ll get there one way or the other. Love is a state of mind that must be worked on everyday by each person in the relationship.
- Do not wait for the person to ask what she/he wants from you. Find opportunities to give without being asked. Be thoughtful. It does not really require you to give something expensive and grand, most of the time…it’s the thought that counts and more often than not, it gets really appreciated. Don’t just wait for anniversaries or birthdays; non-occasional sweet nothings and surprises can work wonders. Remember, small things count..bigtime!
- Time — Do not just make time but find the time to spend with each other. Put some focus on what’s going on in your partner’s world/life. Many break up because one begins to feel that the other is no longer interested in their life. If you want to save the bond/relationship, you have to take the time to make time for them. When you think that the person is asking too much though, that is an entirely different story…
- Communicate, Talk to each other – Talk about your day, what’s going on, talk like best friends, share thoughts and etc…
- Always try to love the way the-receiver-of-your-love wants to be loved. It is understandable that people love in many different ways and that when one does not love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with everything they have. Then again, it is actually better to love in accordance to the receiver’s ways of loving. Think about it… just because you like hammers doesn’t mean you have to give them the same thing when you know it won’t be much to them. In cases like such, sometimes is O.K.but always isn’t. You are not really required to be always consistent, but, do make it a point to always try.
- Tell them you love them DAILY.
- Find ways to show how you care. As an author once said, “Some just do the minimum necessary to get by. They figure out the minimum amount of love, respect, appreciation, housework, sex, or whatever their spouse will tolerate, and do no more than that. …That doesn’t sound like love!”
I know, I know, I’m acting as though I’m some Relationship therapist when I’m actually not! hahah But seriously, these are just a few of my many 2 cents — plainly opinion-based.
“Let us not love with just words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” (1 John 3:18)